delicatetbone:

Shades of Grey aside, I really hate that there’s this shitty ass stereotype that feminsts can’t enjoy BDSM.  Ugh.

actual feminist fantasy:

their partner asked “can I kiss you” and they made out a bunch.

realizing that they both wanted to bang, they negotiated safe words, disclosed personal limits and history as appropriate and comfortable, and discussed their sexual health. as things progressed, they checked in with eachother to make sure everyone was comfortable. they got explicit consent before performing a new act— except in situations where one of them voiced clear requests (and those requests, if agreeable to their partner, were enthusiastically honored).

they had hot, hot sex that they both liked. and then they navigated future contact (platonic, sexual, and/or romantic), or lack there of, openly like adults.